SEX
Yep, everyone wants to know about it, even if you don’t really want it (right now, at least). It’s super important to have true intimacy as your first step – everyone knows what it is like to be taken for granted or used by someone for something, and sex is no different here.
We've got all the practicalities here:
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From learning about 'fertile windows' for conception and what you can do if you have an unexpected pregnancy, including emergency contraception to
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All the contraceptive options (condoms, the pill, the mini-pill, the injection, the bar, Mirena, Nuva-Ring, female condoms and diaphragms) to
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Everything you need to know about sexually transmitted infections (and then some).
Then, head on over to relationships we talk about all the subtle stuff that happens well before we get into bed with one another. Sometimes things go down (pun intended) that you're not really cool with, but why do we say yes? We can get ourselves into all sorts of trouble when we don't honour what we feel in life, and sex and intimacy is no different.
There's so much to say about this aspect of life and love, so continue to check back for more releases, including our blog, and reach out if you have a specific question or scenario you'd like to see covered.
In short, we've got you covered!
Enter...
Otherwise known as the birds and the bees (why?! IDK either).
Conception is a magical act, even if it is not necessarily wanted!
It’s worth knowing about when you can fall pregnant, as this receptivity waxes and wanes as the cycle progresses, month in, month out. That facility is closely linked with your cervical mucus – did you know that?! This can be used as a means for contraception or indeed to fall pregnant (for those who are at that time in their life).
Read on for more detail about the beauty and majesty that is conceiving.
It’s not all hearts and flowers and sometimes the body receives sperm and the very early stages of pregnancy begin.
I’ve spoken with many women who find this absolutely confronting, and while it can represent a new beginning in their life and in their relationship, others just aren’t at that point.
There’s no point feeling guilt or shame about that: it just is.
Thus, being practical and pragmatic means that if you don’t want a pregnancy to progress, there are certain resources one reach out for.
I touch a little bit on unwanted sex here (& here, too).
Your crisis resources are listed at the end too.
No-one wants one of these, but they are more common than you might like to think.
Young people are especially vulnerable to a particular set of infectious conditions that are associated with sex, like chlamydia and gonorrhoea, for example.
These conditions can have long term health and fertility implications, so seeing your doctor is highly recommended to get treatment promptly.
Some conditions are notifiable under public health directions, and contact tracing for all sexual partners in the lead up to diagnosis occurs.
Read this page to avoid nasty surprises.
Everything you wanted to know about contraception and then some.
Who knew there were so many options?!
What if there was a huge and callosal difference between having sex and making love.
And if there was, could everyone have access to that or is it exclusive?
Here we discuss your body as the guide to making love in life, not just "in love".
Did someone say porn?
No-one ought to be naïve enough to believe that most – if not all – of us have seen or used porn, be it in still or moving images. Even words play their part. And whether you’re into it in a big or small way, even just the briefest of encounters can have profound impacts.
So, let's talk about it! You will read more in Psychology of Life.
Write to me...
Sometimes we all need to offload in unpacking life. Situations in life occur and mostly if we can’t deal with them in the first instance, they repeat until we learn how. The faces and the names change, but the core lesson remains.
But, in this world where we focus on the he said/she said, what happened and when, it’s not often that we can boil it all down to the kernel of truth that there is for you to take home and get out of whatever life is presenting for you to grow and develop.
Not only that, but often we do know exactly what we need to do (if anything, sometimes kicking back into reflection and doing nothing is exactly what is needed). Speaking out loud helps this process (hence the opportunity in workshops), but if you haven’t had a chance to attend and you’d like to put fingers to keys and write to me, that can also help too.
Please note I can’t help immediately in the case of emergency – there are contact details for you to reach out to if that’s what is needed.
But I am here to help flesh out any real-life examples of what’s going on for you that you might like a bit of guidance, clarity and encouragement to know that… you’ve got this!